That time I used Tinder for other reasons

Everyone with a smartphone knows that Tinder is used mainly for quick, consensual, and casual hook ups.

Tinder was originally created as a simple dating app but was taken over by horny individuals who wanted a quick and semi anonymous fix. I took Tinder and used it for other reasons.

In June, I was in LA and was looking for a simple and inexpensive way of getting around town. Opening up the app I continuously swiped right until I started getting enough matches.

I’m not going to lie to you, I always wanted to use these girls for their cars and their friendship. We’d talk, get to know each other and then BAM I’d drop the, “hey I’m looking at getting from A to B and was wondering if I’d be able to get a lift.”

Alright I admit that it might not have been the safest way to get around, but I’m alive, and I wasn’t robbed.

Eventually I found someone who was interested in a little Aussie humour and friendship. We drove around to a book shop, the Griffith Observatory, into an In n Out burger joint, and finally up and down Sunset Boulevard. A good time was had by all.

At the end of our little escapades she dropped me back at the hostel and she disappeared off to her place at Santa Monica.

The whole thing kinda made me feel a little slutty, I mean I was using a girl simply for her car, and her company. But it was consensual. She knew what she was getting herself into.

It’s fool proof and cost effective for all budget, solo travellers.

I’d suggest to anyone that if they’re going to use Tinder for any reasons, they need to use common sense and a little restraint. If someone feels shady, they probably will be shady.

Andrew Olle Media Lecture

Tonight I found myself in a very foreign situation. Thanks to my university lectures, I had been given a free ticket to the annual Andrew Olle Media Lecture.

Andrew Olle was an investigative journalist who died suddenly of a brain tumour. A trust was set up in his name, and a scholarship followed.

Each year a highly acclaimed journalist gives a lecture on media, investigative journalism, and a whole bunch of home truths. This year notoriously fearless investigative journalist, Kate McClymont gave the speech.

She spoke with humour, humility, and insight. Kate suggested that journalists, “know the difference between what the public are interested in and what is in the publics interest.”

This spoke out to me above anything else simply because of the literal state of today’s media.

We are lucky in Australia. No matter what media source you analyse, you’ll find that we don’t have one media source that presses an agenda that relies on the humiliation of the gods. For the time being, our media holds sacred the home lives of politicians, media talking heads, and to an extent, celebrities.

This is something that we need to maintain. It is just as important as free press, and free speech. I’m not talking about secrecy, I’m talking about privacy.

If a politician is shagging a secret girlfriend, why do we need to know? Is it impacting their job? Are they doing anything illegal? Is anyone in danger? When all of these questions are answered we can then assess whether or not the story should be publish.

If the media goes down this trashy road of tabloid, sexy stories, then the news will become devalued. And when the news becomes devalued it becomes useless.

Kate McClymont is keeping the news accessible, relevant, ground breaking, and truth seeking.

Attributed to http://www.npr.org/programs/snap-judgment/

Homecoming – Radio Recommendations

Snap Judgement is something that I’ve written about before. Soulful storytelling + mad sick beats = Snap Judgement.

One of their newest episodes is Picking up thePieces. Its about restarting and mending relationships. Just like every week the episode opens with an autobiographical anecdote by the host, Glynn Washington. This weeks opening reflects on a problem all travellers encounter.

Arriving home isn’t always easy. As a traveller you’ve experienced so much that no one around you can relate to. Soon your stories that always seem to begin with, “when I was in…” will become boring to others. Sometimes coming home is a shock to the system. Sometimes coming home doesn’t doesn’t actually mean you’re home.

This little piece of radio illustrates that exact point.

On a closing note, Snap Judgement is hosting a Kickstarter campaign for their 6th season. By donating you can get your hands on some very cool public radio swag so I suggest you check it out.

Check it here Snap Judgement – Season 6 

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Ribs I’ll never get over

One of the best things about travelling is that you can experience so many different tastes and smells. One of the highlights of my trip to America was a massive batch of ribs I ate in Memphis. These ribs melted off the bone and were drenched in a BBQ sauce that came directly from the heavens!

You might think that having a worldly food experience like this would be a massive benefit to ones life. Wrong! This food experience has tarnished all other rib orientated food experiences that are to come in my life.

Imagine experiencing your dream job when you’re only 15. By the time you’re 30 your dream job has become boring and monotonous, because you’ve been doing it for a decade an a half. You’ve reached your peak too early! This is what all of my rib orientated dishes are like from here on out.

Where to now? The thing is I don’t know how I’m going to get over this. The way I see it, the only way I can get over my amazing Memphis rib experience, I need to hunt out all the ribs across the world. That way I can find a rack of ribs that will be reminiscent of those amazing Memphis ribs.

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Just don’t ask me for money

We’ve all done the dance around a charity worker. Often this dance involves trying not to make eye contact, or maybe looking at your phone, sometimes you might even speak to them with a blunt “I don’t want what you’re selling.”  I’ll even fess up to doing the dance. For example, there was this one time when I was in Montreal. A charity worker asked me something in French. Thinking I’d get out of it Scott free I simply said, “sorry I don’t speak French.” Before I had time to congratulate myself for this great escape plan, she replied in English, asking me to sign some partition. GAH you can’t escape them!

But what if I told you sometimes they’re not that bad? Would ya’ll believe me? Recently I found myself in a situation where I was talking to a charity worker. He was nice. He was from Ireland and thats about all I can remember. However, in the 10 minutes that we spoke we bonded on a human level. We spoke about TV, about the environment, politics, travel, and student life. I’m far to skeptical to believe that he had any interest in my life, but it felt good to engage with a charity worker for once, instead of fleeing their clutches.

All was going well in out conversation until he started the conversation of money and donations. From the very beginning I knew this conversation wasn’t going to lead this way, thats why I politely declined stating I support other charities and I didn’t have available funds to give any more. Then this bloke started really begging hard, using things we spoke about in our conversations against me. So I walked.

I know it is the charity workers job to help raise money for a cause, as well as raise awareness. However, I feel that maybe the two need to be separated. Of course what I’m going to propose would only happen in a world where charities would have enough money to run full operations and investigations all the time (If only we could live in this dream world). If we had charity workers who lobby the public and help inform and sway the public as well as a bunch of money grabbing soul munchers, maybe we’d have a much better opinion of charity workers and charities in general?

I mean its a farfetched idea but ideas start conversations and I’m 100% pro conversation (you could even say that I’m a conversationalist). If we had more conversations over things that matter to this world then we’d have a better informed world, a stronger opinionated world, and a world full of people talking. The more people talking, the better.

Wanderlust

Before my visit to the USA, I never believed in such things like Wanderlust or the Travel Bug. Then again before the USA I’d never travelled as extensively as I did in those 7 weeks.

My symptoms of Wanderlust include, absent mindedness, day dreams, loss of appetite (excluding American food), and continuous stories beginning with “when I was in…”. Another effect of this crippling, debilitating ailment is a feeling within me that I need to be constantly saving my money.

Not all of the symptoms mentioned are bad things. I mean I’m eating different things and introducing them to my friends and family, my imagination is on overdrive and my productivity is doubling, and well my bank account is slowly fattening back up. However, some of the negative side effects are making me feel lethargic towards certain aspects of my uni work, and my part time work as well (maybe I need a new job?).

I search for reasons for why Wanderlust hits us. Is it because our lives are so tedious compared to travelling? Could we miss the people we met whilst travelling? Maybe it is some chemical imbalance that is caused by flying long distances?

An answer that I will offer forward is that Wanderlust is a motivation. A motivation that you can use the take yourself places, give yourself reason for stupid things like selling all your items and hitting the road. It drives impulse, thrives on spontaneity, and motivates the impossible.

For the moment being I’ve let Wanderlust guide me. Of course common sense hasn’t given way (I would have sold all my stuff, dropped out of uni and quit my job if I didn’t hold onto my common sense). But for the time being I’m handing myself over to Wanderlust and I’ll see where it takes me.